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My nephew gets his eyebrow area waxed and cleaned almost weekly, but many of us think he’s trimming them too much. I’m all for “manscaping,” but not to the point where it looks too fake. How do we break it to him without embarrassing him?

Anonymous, Staten Island

Oh, a too-groomed brow looks horrible on a man! And to think he’s going for the opposite effect — he’ll be mortified.

That said, let him down gently. Pick up an issue of GQ — heck, gift him a subscription! — because “you think he’s super-stylish.” (Give the guy a little credit to soften the blow.) Then, point out some looks you think he could rock and show him men you find attractive and well-put together. Note their haircuts, socks — anything — all leading up to their brows.

Hopefully, he’ll then ask you what you think of his. If he doesn’t, just flat out go there. Explain that his attempt to “manscape” has left him too-polished, and it’s not a good look.

I do this to my brother all the time. He insists on growing this hideous mustache. He tells me that the girls love it, but I don’t know what girls he’s talking about because it’s horrible.

That said, to each his own. But in this case, it just sounds like he’s overdoing it — and perhaps unintentionally. He should only be waxing the middle — the “unibrow” part — and not weekly! His hair can’t really sprout that quickly!

So be honest (but not accusatory) and don’t pretend to be the expert; just offer him some guidance on where to find one.

I have not been intimate with my wife for 20 years. Counseling was no answer. I can’t get a divorce for several reasons, granddaughters being one of them. I feel sorry for myself and don’t think it’s fair to be deprived. Can you suggest something I could do other than visiting ladies of the evening?

Anonymous, NYC

This just isn’t good. It’s not healthy for you. It’s not healthy for your wife. And, most of all, it’s not healthy for those granddaughters you’re trying to protect.

I can’t — and won’t — advise you to go meet someone else, and carry out a relationship behind your wife’s back. That would hurt so many people.

If you have gone through counseling and still not found a solution, I suggest you pick yourself up, and move on. I know that sounds so easy. I know it’s not. But life is too short for you to sit there and let it all pass by. Frankly, it’s a pathetic way to live.

I heard a saying a long time ago: “Happy parents, happy kids.” The same applies to your children and your grandchildren. While I understand you think pretending everything is great, and playing “happy family” is safe and selfless, it’s just living a lie, which won’t do anyone any good.

Sure, you may feel older, and the thought, “Who would want me now?” has probably crossed your mind. But you’ve been in an unfulfilling relationship for 20 YEARS! There is still time to find fulfillment.