If a guy is well-endowed, should you tell him? And if he’s not, but you aim to please, do you lie? — Anonymous
This is a tricky question. If, by observation, you truly think a guy’s well-endowed, then go ahead and tell him. If he isn’t, though, why draw attention to the obvious? In fact, if it’s Tater Tot size, and you’re all like, Ooooh, baby, you’re sooooooooooo big, you’re just asking for trouble.
See, guys notice other guys in the locker room. They know what they’re really packing, comparitively speaking. So, if anything, having you say something like that when you’re trying to physically please him might be a mental distraction. They’ll go from feeling ecstatic to erratic, wondering, Hmm, I know I’m not that big, so is she trying to overcompensate by making me feel better? Does she think I’m not that big? Has she had bigger?!
I think it also depends on who the guy is and how much he means to you. If you’re not exclusive and he’s average-size or below average, than why boost his ego by giving his so-so sausage such an amazing compliment?
In general, I say to save the sweet, sexy talk and comments like that for someone you’re exclusive with; someone who’s earned your trust and admiration.
How do you tell your partner that you don’t like something he keeps asking for in the bedroom?— Anonymous
Well, have you ever done it before? If you haven’t, try it a few times and take one — or a few — for the team. A lot of girls out there are very prudish. I say try something new! What’s the big deal? You never know: Maybe his obvious enjoyment and excitement will end up being a turn on for you. Have a drink, relax and give it a go. (I think almost anything goes when alcohol’s involved because you can lose your inhibitions more easily. You’ll likely wake up the next day and laugh about it, and it’ll go down in the “Do you remember when we . . .” storybook.)
If you have tried it, and still aren’t into it, think of an alternative.
Say he’s asking you to do a striptease for him and you’re not secure about your body or were blessed with the “I Have No Rhythm” gene. Compromise by giving him a lap dance. This way, the focus is less about him watching you and more about you rubbing against him. Who knows? In the process, you might realize you’re more secure with the act (and your body!) than you think, and might feel better about playing stripper next time.
At the end of the day, you’re not a porn star, you’re his girlfriend. Sex is best when both partners are comfortable. If you can’t be honest and respect each other’s likes and dislikes in the bedroom, then things get a little tricky in the relationship.
The Post ran a story on Sting and Truie Styler last week, and after 30 years together, they still get excited about each other. Sting said, “Romantic? We like it ‘tawdry.’” Which means a little vulgar — trashy, even. Sometimes, it’s good to be a little bad — especially in the bedroom with the person you love.
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