I’m of the belief that the sooner you get the sex out of the way, the more you can be real afterwards. Is it really so terrible to start a relationship with sex?
Anonymous, NYC
I do think it’s better to wait. Unless, of course, you just want to get your rocks off, then by all means, have at it! But it sounds like you want to start with sex as a means of making sure the physical chemistry is there before bothering to connect emotionally.
But the way I see it, one informs the other and most successful relationships start with the “real” stuff. (Trust me: The more you actually like someone, the better the sex will be.)
See, if you give it up before actually leaving a “real” (read: not physical) impression, then there’s a greater chance they’ll think that’s just how you roll, and you run the risk of not ever showing the “real” you because you’ve played yourself (and them).
So keep your head in that “they don’t deserve me” mentality. Make them work for it. And don’t settle for anything less than what you’re looking for to complete your life, be it love or just sex. Good luck!
I love music during foreplay, but my playlist has grown stale. What are some good songs to switch it up?
Anonymous, NYC
That’s a toughie! It really depends on your personal taste inmusic. I mean, I can’t sit here and tell you to listen to Jack Johnson’s “Bubble Toes” if that’s not what turns you on (and your partner, for that matter).
If I were you, I’d go onto iTunes or Pandora and look up the genre of music you love listening to in the Boom Boom Room, then download other people’s playlists or listen to that specific channel on Pandora.
I hate when you listen to the same songs over and over again —especially if you’re hooking up with the same person over and over again! So I’d leave it up to these music programs to help you discover something new. Enter in an artist or song you usually like, and voila! They’ll play you some alternatives within that genre. Then, as Marvin Gaye sings in his famously sexy bedroom ditty, go “get it on.”
I’m three-months pregnant and my boobs are HUGE. My husband’s into them, but I’m not. What can I do to make them less of a turn off to me?
Anonymous, NYC
Strap those things down! I’m sure they hurt, and feel heavy, soall the more reason to get them under control. But do NOT go to a maternity store just yet. Getting one of those bras with detachments so you can breast-feed is not the answer. At least not yet.
I know the idea of spending $50 on a sexy bra that you’ll probably outgrow in a week or two may seem wasteful, but this is your self-confidence we’re talking about! You deserve a pick-me-up — literally. Trust me, this little thing will make such a big difference.
I’d also invest in some cozy cotton sports bras or tanks to sleep in at night. They’ll keep your tatas safe and sound, which will allow you to sleep safe and sound. And don’t worry. Your boobs will likely deflate once you give birth. This is not forever!
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